Do not listen to your parents

Do not listen to your parents. They do not know what is best for you. They only know what would have been best for them if they could live their lives over again. You are made up of generations of individuals, you may be nothing like your parents. My brother and I skipped a generation. Neither of us had anything in common with our parents. So we searched around to find who the 'culprit' was. It turned out to be our grandfather. Unfortunately he died when we were small so we had no-one that understood our wayward and extraordinary behaviour. We could not have been more different from our parents.

It takes great courage to go against your parents' wishes but if you truly feel that you know exactly what you want from your life - the important point here is 'your life' - it is not theirs. Parents will use all sorts of emotional and financial blackmail to get you to do what they want. If you know what you want to do with your life then do it.

Of course very few ever do. The desire to make parents happy and to win their approval usually dominates and eventually destroys all your dreams.

I am extremely old, so I know what I am talking about. I have not given up my dreams, even in the face of extreme opposition.

It is very important that you listen to the inner voice that is telling you what you really want from life. Perhaps if more people listened to that voice and acted on it then the world would be a better place. Or at the very least a happier place. But inevitably nearly everyone opts out and conforms. There is only one person that can stop that from happening and that is you.

You are unique. There is no-one else like you. Be the best You, you can be!! Enjoy your life.

Who will die first?

Today I am wondering whether mother will outlive both of us. My brother is terminally ill and after a lifetime of abuse I am not very well either. I rather think she will outlive us because she has found the way to do nothing and let everyone else do it for her. This is why she is so well at 87.
She tells everyone that she is poor and ill, neither is correct. I wish that I
could just fly away. But of course you can't. I have not experienced my life without her. It seems she is too clever for me. She is always able to trap me in some way.

If there is an afterlife I hope that we will be as far away from one another as possible. This is a woman who is so selfish she is dispensing with her family one at a time. Dad's gone. My brother's very ill. That leaves me and I am not well. If we all die before her she'll go on to the next generation. This woman is truly monstrous.